It looks like you've done your preliminary homework (read the threads on this topic, etc.), and, as you see, there are many, many choices out there.
I'm with you on this. Until I spend the big money on "the best" (whatever that is) gear for me and my wife we are wearing one of Cortech's (Tourmaster) 3/4-length jackets and some simple Fieldsheer overpants. I don't recall the name of the jacket but it was only $100 and indistinguishable, to me, from their other, more expensive, 3/4 jackets.
There are many choices, as you know. Some of the better-quality brands appear to be BMW, Aerostich, Fieldsheer, and Olympia. Others will chime in with their observations.
My wife and I are planning a trip to Duluth, MN where we can TRY ON Aerostich gear and they can take measurements to ensure a good fit; I hate having to send things back and forth in order to get the right size/fit.
The complete line of BMW gear should be available for examination at most larger dealers, or the IMS when it's in your area. And don't forget eBay. Joe (messenger13) is snatching up the free world's supply of BMW gear on eBay in his size, and saving tons of $$ in the process.
My goals: waterproof, windproof, vented/ventable, armored, heavy-duty/quality construction, top-notch materials, nice design/aesthetics. I'm "OK" with what I have now, but I'm really leaning towards the Aerostich one-piece suit -- fast on and off.
Boots: I'm wearing BMW's Contour boot. My wife (hard to fit feet) is wearing a pair of sturdy hiking boots.
Gloves: I'm presently using a pair of cheapy leather gloves; will get better ones as time goes on.
Let us know what you find out. This is a topic of interest to many.