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post #1 of 5 Old Feb 11th, 2006, 10:10 am Thread Starter
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Meeting your spouse again

When Roxanne and I were married, we were both babies. Had no idea the depth and breadth of the asdventure lying ahead of us. We had little money, but we had lots of love, and it carried us through times both easy and hard.

In September of last year, on the eve of our 34th anniversary, we got married again. Friends from all our lives together met with us at the Thorncrown Chapel in Eureka Springs for the ceremony, and then celebrated at a huge party on the boat dock. (They say the party went on for 3 days, until the champagne finally ran out. They say I had a lot of fun. I don't remember shedding my tux and jumping into the water to save the ducks, but the ducks are still alive and doing well, so it must have happened the way "They" say.)

But to the point:

Before the event, people would refer to it as "renewing our vows." I explained again and again that that is not what we were doing. Our vows were good for our lifetime, no renewal necessary.

What we were doing was getting married AGAIN as the people we had become, the people we had grown into. We didn't renew our vows; we married each other anew.

Perhaps the distinction seems subtle or obscure, but think about it, and to some of you, it will make sense.

If you have an inclination, I invite you to read the ceremony, for it is beyond ordinary in its purpose, message and sentiment. I went to the houseboat and closed myself up for 3 days, and did not return home until the ceremony spoke exactly what we were about.

It may be that you and the one you love would like to do the same thing, get married again and anew...which is different than "renewing your vows." This ceremony speaks to that, in words that I felt came from somewhere far beyond my limited abilities to express.

Here is the Ring Ceremony, for example, and you will see that we were not "renewing vows." This was something different, and more special.

Presentation of Rings
These rings have been worn for many years. These are the golden wedding bands of a very rich man and a very rich woman.

The years these rings were worn by Ted and Roxanne blessed them with two wonderful children, Trista and Shelly…two beautiful grandchildren, Jaden and Noah. The years saw them through many successes, and some failures. Through great happiness, and some sorrows.

Through all that a full life has offered to them, or thrown at them, Ted and Roxanne wore these rings. The years, the many events of their lives, helped these two learn how to love completely, and thus have they become rich beyond measure.

Having been worn through so many of life’s tests and trials, these rings are scratched. These rings are scuffed -- and nicked -- and dented.

But they are not broken.

The circle is intact.

The bond and the beauty have endured.

The beginning has no end.

Now, with this covenant made today between the two of you and God, the value of these simple gold bands can be seen as priceless. Long after the words spoken here have become echoes faded in memory, these rings on your fingers will speak richly of the commitments you hold, one for another.

As you place them on each other’s hands, we ask God to place his hand upon you, and give his enduring blessing to this unbreakable union -- this most precious treasure -- that is represented by these simple, timeworn circles of gold.

If you have an inclination, the entire ceremony can be found on my web page, just scroll down to the wedding link, and the link to the ceremony is at the top of that page. And if you think that these sentiments express the way you feel about your own wife or husband, and if you find the ceremony fitting, you would be welcome, and I would be honored, if you wanted to take it and adapt it for your own "re-marriage."

Sorry for the length of this, but you could have stopped reading at any time, so that's on you.

Best to all,

Ted
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Ted: Very keen insight. I like the depth of feeling in "re-marriage" instead of renewing vows. How true, vows are inaugarated at the start... as long as love continues there is really no reason to re-new what already IS! I like your style.

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Nothing wrong with getting re-married to the one you love at all.Should happen more often between married couples. My bride and i want to do the same thing on our 10th anniversary as well.
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Thanks, Ted, that was very well done.

I have been asked to pereform a "re-marriage" ceremony for some friends and, with your permission, I would like to show them what you have written.

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Thanks for you post, it reminded me how much I love Cindy. Cindy and I were re-married after 25 years a few years ago when we were in Las Vegas for a convention. At first it was just for fun, but it turned out that is was really more than that. I realized that we are really emotionally connected, we cry at the same time, we laugh at the same time.

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