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Unhappy One of my best friends lost the battle this morning...

I've heard it said that "a joy shared is greatly multiplied, and a burden shared is greatly divided". I write this today sharing a huge burden. For this, I apologize.


I just received "the call" that I didn't want to receive. The voice on the other end of the line told me that Bruce had passed away early this morning. Bruce has been fighting cancer for almost 2 years now. At one point, we all thought he had it beat. But alas, not to be.

Bruce was a father, a brother, a friend, a mentor, an employer, and a fellow rider to me. He taught me more about life than any other person on this planet, next to my wife and kids. I will love him forever. And I miss him so much already. I saw him Thursday, and knew that it was only a matter of time. The cancer had taken too much.

None of you knew Bruce...but you know someone like him I'll bet. The guy that is always encouraging, never discouraging. Always smiling, even when things aren't going his way. Never saying anything bad about anyone else. And everything he said always seemed good, and right, and true, and it just made sense. You always want him around, and love it when he calls. Well that was Bruce.

Bruce was 'simply the best'.


Bruce was no stranger to cancer, for both of his parents died from it. As did his brother and two of his sisters. The most recent being his sister Mary.

Bruce was one of my favorite writers...a very talented logophile. He wrote short stories, plays, and poetry. Below is a poem that he wrote in memory of his sister. Ironically, his very words would apply to his life now. If you should share this poem with anyone, please give credit to Bruce. He deserves that much.



We Trust So
(In Memory of Mary)

To bear much pain
with dignity.
To carry in a muted mouth
great sorrow.

To answer each absurdity
with hope;
To dance a noble waltz
with great offenses.

To honor dread defeat
with honor due;
To answer none
with shame.

To walk upright with holden gait
not halting.
To rest, to sleep,
awake to heaven’s pace and holding.

To hold the weak in high esteem
as children of the Lord,
to put their hearts at ease
with true affection,
yet gracefully withstand
affection spurned.

To wait and wait and wait for dawn
not fretting
to see the final entrance
of the light.

To such we hold
our souls account
for mercy’s sake
and men’s salvation.

To extravagantly love remains;
To end well in this regard, we trust so.

- Bruce W. Cummings




Below is a picture of Bruce at the northend of the Blue Ridge Parkway. It was taken on May 27, 2002. Shortly after that trip, I bought my LT. Bruce kept on riding is Honda ACE 750 Deluxe.





I'll be thinking of you Bruce...whenever I ride. Love ya man.
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post #2 of 32 Old Jan 6th, 2007, 12:37 pm
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For that, Joe - NO apology is necessary.

Sharing a burden is one of the powerful answers to the question - "what are friends for?"

You'll always be blessed that Bruce was part of your life.
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What Dick said. Remember the good times always.


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I'm very sorry to hear about your loss of a dear friend, Joe. You and his family will be in my thoughts today.

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Condolences Joe. The Loss is real. Sharing reality only supports us all.

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I'm very sorry for your loss Joe

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It appears that your friend Bruce was a very wealthy man who enriched those around him.

Kind of like the way we think of Joe around here.
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For what it is worth you have my sincere condolences Joe. Loosing those that are closest to us are some of the hardest challenges we have to deal with in life. In my opinion true friendship is something of rare commodity. While Bruce is now no longer with you in body his friendship will live on in your memories. It is a poor substitute I know, but often the only option available to us in this life.


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Thanks for sharing your love and loss with us all. We need to be reminded that life is short and to appreciate those closest to us.

May Bruce's family and friends forever be blessed by positive memories, love he shared, encouragement he offered, sincerity imparted, and smiles he radiated! My wish for you Joe is that your friendship with Bruce will always be a source of strength and comfort, and that you feel his presence as you ride on and celebrate life.

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Joe, don't know you, don't know Bruce, but, got a tear in my eye reading this post. Best thing you can do is to remember him, and by this post, you've done that (and probably will carry on doing so). Hope Bruce had a good life, and his family are OK.

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I'm sorry for your loss!! I know I don't have to tell you this, but you have a Friend that is closer than a brother and He will carry you and his family through this dark time. Remember with fondness all the good times you had. You, your family, his family and friends will be in my prayers.

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Truly sorry to hear about your loss Joe. I also had a tear form reading your post!! A sad day to say the least.
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Sorry for your loss Joe. You and Bruce's family will be in our prayers.

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Joe, sorry for your loss and Bruce's family and friends loss.

Thanks for taking time to tell us about him - he sounds like a great guy and I am sorry I never got to meet him.

You'll be in our prayers amigo...
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Sorry to hear of your loss Joe. Thanks for sharing your friend with us and may he ride forever.

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Sorry to hear that Joe, you have Gretchen and my prayers.
I also lost a freind motorcycle rider last year due to cancer.
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May the souls of the faithful departed
Through the mercy of God
Rest in peace.. Amen.

You are proving how much your friend taught you, Joe... well done.

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Dear Joe, sorry to hear about your loss.
Bruce was a good friend to you and you to him.
He enriched your life and you his.
You told us a lot about him, and that told us a lot about you!
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Joe, one of the most difficult things we do in this life is parting from great friends. Keeping their memory alive by making others aware of the life they led, the impact they had on you and others and the example they set is a lasting tribute to who they are and who you are. Thanks for sharing.
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Joe, sorry to hear of your tragic loss...cancer sucks. Remember, as youre thinking of him as you ride, he will be there with you....

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Joe, we are sorry to hear of the passing of your friend. All I can do is express my sympathy to you and your family at this time.

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I've heard it said that "a joy shared is greatly multiplied, and a burden shared is greatly divided". I write this today sharing a huge burden. For this, I apologize.

Joe, no apology is ever necessary for sharing a burden on this site. I'm glad we have a place like this.

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I am sorry for your loss Joe. You are a lucky guy to have known such a great person.

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Thank you for sharing your thoughts and sorrow! May we all be blessed with a true friend and have the insight and courage to say so.

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Sorry about your loss

Sorry to hear about your loss Joe.

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Joe:
I know how you feel. I, too, lost a close friend to cancer on Dec.7th. Although she was older (85), she led a vibrant, active lifestyle up to the end. She was an inspiration to me, as she rode her own bike until she was about 65 in addition to touring the country with her husband on their Goldwing. In her younger days she competed in time trials and hill climbs at a time when very few women rode motorcycles. My passion for biking and life in general is a direct result of knowing her. She was like a second mother to me and I miss her greatly.

Time will ease the hurting, but for now know that your friend is in a far better place and that some day you and he will ride together again with endless blue skies and warm temperatures.

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the loss of a friend

Joe
sorry to hear about your friend
I too lost an older more seasoned riding friend gosh it has been over 10 years now........

Will pray for the family and for you.

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